Suki Hanfling, MSW, LICSW, BCD

Director & Founder


Founder/Director of the former McLean Hospital Human Sexuality Progr. (HSP) & the McLean Couples and Family Institute. Trained in HSP & ISI programs. MSW High Honors, Boston College, 1973. MA, Univ. of Chicago, except second romance language, French Literature, BA, Univ of Rochester, Magna Cum Laude & Phi Beta Kappa.


Please email me at [email protected] so I can email you back with important information. It is important that my clients experience me as warm, empathic, intuitive, active, insightful, and able to create a therapeutic atmosphere that feels safe, respectful and productive. I really love my work and am hopeful and positive about people's abilities to change. As the director, I am available to do a free 20 minute consultation by phone if you are considering seeing me after receiving the email from me explaining how I practice.


Do you wish you could feel more intimate with your partner? Has your sexual relationship lost its passion and sense of connection? Do you wonder where your desire and excitement went and would rather read a book or watch t.v. than be sensual or sexual with your partner? If so, you might want to call Suki Hanfling for a free 20 minute phone consultation to explore whether couples/sex therapy might be helpful. Suki Hanfling, AASECT Diplomate and Alan Altman, MD, were the two consultants and authors of Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond, the Health Report from Harvard Medical School. To learn about this report or to order copies please go to: The Institute for Sexuality & Intimacy (ISI) offers treatment of sexual dissatisfaction, sexual dysfunction, and sexual addiction. I treat heterosexual, gay, lesbian and bisexual individuals and couples. My treatment approach emphasizes the individual growth of each partner as well as the enhancement of the couple relationship .I work with both members of a couple whenever possible. I have found that when one partner experiences sexual difficulties, the other partner generally influences and is affected by these problems. However, it is possible to successfully conduct sex therapy with an individual.


I work actively and sensitively with clients on discovering what is important to each of them individually, in their relationships, and specifically in terms of their sexuality. We use an integrated, flexible approach which, depending on the needs of the clients may include insight oriented work, cognitive behavioral therapy, couple's therapy, Internal Family Systems, & Imago therapy. Although there are often multiple factors contributing to sexual difficulties, we begin sex therapy by addressing the most immediate and specific causes, such as communication difficulties, being “time starved” due to life's stresses, and performance anxiety. When indicated, therapy can then focus on more complex causes, including difficulties with trust, control, and intimacy.


Very limited. Afternoons only. Please email me.


4 A Locust Lane , Watertown, MA 02472