Question 1

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Question 2

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

Question 3

Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why or why not?

Question 4

What would a perfect day look like for you?

Question 5

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

Question 6

If you lived to 90 and could keep either the mind or the body of a 30-year-old for your last 60 years, which would you choose?

Question 7

How do you think you will die?

Question 8

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

Question 9

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

Question 10

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Question 11

Take four minutes and tell your partner the story of your life in as much detail as you can.

Question 12

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Question 13

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, your future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

Question 14

Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?

Question 15

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

Question 16

What do you value most in a friendship?

Question 17

What is your most treasured memory?

Question 18

What is your most terrible memory?

Question 19

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

Question 20

What does friendship mean to you?

Question 21

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Question 22

Alternate sharing a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five times each.

Question 23

How close and warm is your family? Would you describe your childhood as happier than most?

Question 24

How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Question 25

Each of you make three true "we" statements. For example, "We are both in this room feeling..."

Question 26

Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..."

Question 27

If you were going to become close friends with someone, what would be important for them to know about you?

Question 28

Tell your partner what you like about them. Be very honest and say things you might not say to someone you just met.

Question 29

Share an embarrassing moment from your life with your partner.

Question 30

When was the last time you cried in front of someone else? What about by yourself?

Question 31

Tell your partner something you admire about them.

Question 32

What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

Question 33

If you were to die this evening with no chance to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why have you not told them yet?

Question 34

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make one final dash to save a single item. What would it be? Why?

Question 35

Of all the people in your family, whose death would affect you the most? Why?

Question 36

Share a personal problem and ask your partner how they might handle it. Then ask them to reflect back how you seem to be feeling about the problem.