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Your sex life deserves to be better
Discover your shared desires and learn your partner's preferences you might never think to ask
Rediscover your partner, uncover new desires, and bring fresh excitement back to your love life
Add some fun to your date night. Uncover your partner's fantasies and deepen your intimacy
Preferences change after big life events. Reconnect and keep intimacy alive
Reveal hidden interests, secret fantasies, and see where your desires overlap
Fun and easy way to start the conversation. Low pressure and no awkwardness
Therapists and educators use ThatSexQuiz.com to help couples open up
One of the most common challenges I see in couples is the difficulty of initiating honest conversations about sexual desires and preferences. Often folks have never asked themselves what they like — let alone their partners!
ThatSexQuiz.com offers a practical, low-barrier tool that addresses this gap thoughtfully.
Dr. Catie Buttner
Licensed Clinical Social Worker & Sex Therapist
ThatSexQuiz leads to more open conversations about sex. That is what is really tremendous about the quiz.
Candace Johnson
Creator of the Touchy Feely Game
Designed by sex therapists to help you explore your desires and find something new to try together
The preferences that define your sexual personality
9 questionsMusic, lighting, mood, senses and context
10 questionsTouch and play are complete in themselves. Sometimes they lead somewhere, sometimes they're the destination
16 questionsTalking, feedback, initiation, and consent
12 questionsGrooming, clothing, and body art
16 questionsTiming, frequency, and making sex happen
6 questionsGiving and receiving oral
9 questionsPositions, protection, and how things finish
14 questionsIntensity, passion and consensual rough play
9 questionsAnal play, curiosity, and related activities
11 questionsExploring consensual power play, anticipation, and the psychological and embodied experiences that can arise through power exchange
16 questionsScenarios, characters, and imaginative sex
7 questionsSex toys, wearables, and accessories
9 questionsWatching, or involving others, swinging, sex parties and consensual voyeurism
8 questionsWrite in your own questions to explore exactly what's on your mind — $5 flat fee for up to 10
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ThatSexQuiz.com is a sex quiz for couples. Each person answers the quiz separately. It will ask you questions about your sexual desires and preferences. Then you can see where you and your partner match. This is a great way to start a conversation, discover your shared desires, and find something new to try together.
The quiz is great for both new and long-term couples. Conversations about sex can be uncomfortable and people change over time. This is a great way to find your shared desires for the first time or spicy thing up in an existing relationship.
Most couples finish in about 10-15 minutes. Each person needs to complete the quiz separately. You can take the quiz on the same device one after the other. Or you can take it on different devices. You'll be given a private link to share with your partner.
Your results are ready instantly. We compute your compatibility score, both overall and by category, and your individual sexual personalities, benchmarked against the answers of thousands of other couples. You'll also see your answers side by side: either just your matches or everything, depending on what you chose during setup.
Yes. When you create your quiz, you can add up to 10 custom questions. It costs $5 to add custom questions. Your questions are mixed into the quiz, and your partner answers them with the same Yes/No/Maybe options as every other question. We do not reveal which questions you wrote. The fee applies even if you do not end up matching on your questions. If you chose to share "Only matches", a custom question you do not match on will not appear in your results. Someone could try to figure out which questions you wrote by comparing their quiz with our public list of questions. That would take a lot of work, and because we update the quiz periodically, they could never be completely sure. You can also check the list before adding a question to make sure it is not already in the quiz.
During setup, you choose what gets shared: "Only matches" (just the answers where you both said "yes" or "maybe") or "Everything" (all of your answers, including non-matches). Some questions ask open-ended follow-up questions. Your notes there are revealed alongside your answer, so your partner sees them only when the answer itself is shared, meaning you matched or you chose "Everything".
No, of course not. A match just means you are both open to talking about something, nothing more. Consent happens in the moment, every time, and either of you can give it or take it back at any point, including right in the middle of things. Never use quiz results to pressure, guilt, or negotiate your partner into anything.
We ask some questions about watching porn with your partner, and we always refer to ethical porn. Ethical porn is porn made with the full consent of everyone involved. Performers are verified adults, treated well on set, fairly paid, and in control of what they do. In practice, that usually means paying for content directly from studios or creators you trust, instead of watching stolen or pirated clips on free sites.
When you set up the quiz, you choose what gets shared: "Only matches" or "Everything". With "Only matches", your results only include questions where you both answered "yes" or "maybe", so neither of you sees the other's non-matches. With "Everything", you each see all of each other's answers, including non-matches. We recommend "Everything" because it leads to more open and honest conversations, but it's entirely optional. Whichever you choose is shown clearly to both partners before they start answering.
Your choice between "Only matches" and "Everything" is locked once either partner starts the quiz. Both partners see the choice clearly before answering and answer with that expectation, so changing it afterward would break the trust you agreed to. We've also had people try to access their partner's answers without consent. Because quizzes are anonymous, we have no reliable way to verify identities or confirm that both partners agree to a change. Locking the choice protects both partners' privacy and ensures the consent given at the start is respected.
Technically, yes. Someone could answer "yes" to every question to see all of their partner's answers. But if your partner is cheating on a simple quiz, you have bigger problems in your relationship. If you want full transparency, you don't need to cheat. Just pick "Everything" when you set up the quiz. During setup you choose between sharing "Only matches" or "Everything", and both partners see that choice before answering a single question. We actually encourage couples to choose "Everything", because it opens the door to honest conversation about what you're both curious about. Better communication = better sex.
We take privacy seriously. Your connection is encrypted, we never sell or rent personal info, and we automatically permanently delete data after 90 days.
Yes. The quiz is free and basic results are free. You can pay to unlock the full results. This is a one-time purchase. Not a subscription. You will not be charged again - unlike some other quizzes that try to charge you monthly and hope you forget to cancel.
ThatSexQuiz.com was built with the help of licensed sex therapists. All questions were carefully crafted and are not generated by AI.
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